The covert narcissist

1. Highly materialistic 
2. Expert liars 
3. Hypnotic
4. A master of manipulation
5. Emptiness, seems to have something missing that you can’t quite put your finger on
6. Stubborn, rarely apologising unless they want something from you
7. Ability to make you feel guilty, even when something is not your fault
8. Entirely self centred; they are the centre of their own universe
9. Projecting their insecurities and defects onto you
10. Very sensitive to constructive criticism
11. Inability to form intimate relationships
12. Inability to feel genuine remorse
13. Blaming others for their problems
14. Low emotional intelligence
15. Extreme lack of empathy
16. Superficially charming
17. Two-faced 
18. A victim mentality.   

It can take a while to see these traits. The traits you see when you first meet a narc.. is basically your dream man. Whatever it is you want in a man, 'the narc' will morph into that person. He is highly intelligent when it comes to figuring out what you want in a man and he finds this out very quickly after meeting you. If you have something he wants, i.e. a lifestyle or the fact you are well liked and have a good circle of friends, if you are pretty and will look good on his arm, then 'the narc' will value you - for a while.  If you are not considered so pretty or for some reason he doesn't want his immediate circle knowing about you, but you can offer him other things to his life then he will keep you a secret, while making you think that if you stick it out then one day you might get what you want. He will never truly commit to telling you what you want to hear but will imply and make you believe. .A very cruel and degrading thing to do to a person.